I’m grateful for communication.
Communication is a basic human function. We communicate with our words, with our eyes, and with our body language. It is essential in our day to day life. Babies communicate their needs by crying, they express their joy by laughing; these things are instinctual. They learn how to communicate by observing others. As they grow and learn to speak, they communicate whatever is on their mind as it enters; sometimes it’s hilarious, and sometimes it’s not. It’s through their elders and peers that they learn to censor, or stifle their communication.
We learn to bury our feelings and our thoughts when we feel as though they aren’t, or won’t be accepted. Communication is so important though. Without it, we are left to make assumptions and doubt, and that’s unhealthy. All good relationships are based on good communication.
Communication can be uncomfortable at times, but it helps us heal and lift the burden our thoughts and feelings can sometimes put on us. As vulnerable as it can make us feel, effective communication isn’t possible without being open and honest. In order to do that, we need to feel safe and know we won’t be judged or have an argument ensue. Being a good listener and having compassion and understanding are essential tools to use when someone is sharing their thoughts and emotions with you.
Lots of issues can be resolved with good communication in any and all relationships. I have practiced good communication with my son since he was little. He’s 14 now and trust me, it’s pretty effective most of the time. I was raised that way, too!
When we shut down communication, we deny an understanding of the situation and conflicts and consequences can ensue which make things worse. It also leads to a breakdown in the relationship and can be emotionally damaging for all parties involved.
Good communication is also the result of compromise and setting boundaries. Meeting someone halfway and coming to a conclusion that both parties can agree with, or are at least satisfied with, can really help add positive reinforcement for more effective communication in the future. Setting boundaries and limits are the best tools to show people how we wish to be treated in situations, and also require effective communication to be used.
To effectively communicate, try to not be emotional during your communication (I know it’s hard), use “I” words such as “I feel, I need, I understand,” and speak without escalating your voice. People tend to tune others out when that happens and effective communication ends.
Remember that communication is a tool for growth, empowerment, courage, strength, and love! We communicate for all these reasons because everyone deserves to be heard, and given the chance to be understood for the greater good of our well-being. It’s the reason you have a voice! Use it wisely, and with love always.
Good communication opens so many doors and leads to positive outcomes as a result. Just watch and see!
What are you grateful for?